FOR THE LoVE oF MAyA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I am not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I am telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I am a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

By Maya Angelou

That Girl

To succeed in life one must learn from other experiences , so as not to make the same mistakes, while I can appreciate what you are saying..even if i didn't know your brother or his circumstances, in trying to not to make the same mistakes ,one loses a bit of one's self.....

I have decided to be the person that provides for her self and doesn't need a man to take care of her, but in doing that, i have lost meeting and connecting with awesome guys.

I am that girl that has learnt from others relationship experiences ....now she has trust issues.

I am that girl that has seen how a lack of finance can cause a breakdown in communication in relationships and now she is scared of taking in relationships.

I am the girl that has seen how marrying someone from a different background, leads to all sorts of communication breakdown and complications....so she will date only men who were brought up like her.

I have learnt how friends can be closer than brothers, and now...... she has had friends who trampled upon her and friends that believe she can take over the world.

I have also seen how ambition can make people destructive and petty and now she has limited her scope of reach.

I am that girl, how loves to meet people, loves love and just want to be happy...and now she is a loner and always sad....

I am that girl that once believed nothing was impossible....but now she has been humbled.

I am that girl that has always believed that is better to be alone or a single parent than endure the drama of marriage(a phobia for marriage).

I am that girl who has seen bitterness almost takeover a person......now she keeps my distance.

I am that girl that has seen how a sister can love her brother soooo much and but dislike his wife.....now cos she has brothers she loves so much she tend to take a back sit in their lives.

I am that girl that has heard how friends change when they get married and now....she let go first.

I am that girl that has been chased by so many married men and now......she thinks will this happen to her too.

I am that girl who is also friends with married man...and is very concerned for their wives.

I am that girl that has heard/ seen how gist spreads..so is quiet about her life( listens more and talks less).

I am that girl that likes to have the starring role in any drama filled activity ...so now she stays away from trouble.

I am that girl that has seen woman struggle with four children now wants only two.

I am also that girl that has seen her friend come back from the brink of death after child bearing and now only wants to give birth to one ( C- Section ) and adopt one.

I am that girl that has seen women go from skinny to fat( genes i possess)...... now she want only one child.

I am that girl that have seen people, who are now depressed or even a bit loony, but were absolutely fine in their youth..... now tries to see if she has that trait in her....

I am that girl ............that has a lot of love to give but is afraid to.......

I am the girl that see herself as a girl and not a woman even though she is 31

I am that girl that is gonna be a year old on Monday.....Hurrahhhh

I am that girl that knows her future is bright....

I am that girl that believes in Jesus Christ!!!!!!!

I am that girl ...that is it

NEW BUSINESS

Started a new business last month as a personal shopper, i have gotten some orders and it seems to be going okay...customers are just trickly in...but rome wasnt built in a day.
i think i am going to try my hands at writing short stories,,,it cant be that hard, can it?? easy than taking up sewing isnt it
so i am dusting my "proverbial Pen" and taking this up...i shall try to put my thots on pen and paper....

A lack of interest

I have no interest in anything....I mean the world cup is on and I didn't even want to watch the openning ceremony. I don't want to go out at weekends, saturdays and sundays are used to relax...maybe that is y I have put on some weight cos of my inactivity ..even my daddy has noticed...anywys I hope I get over this sooner than later. Now back to the Blind Side...brillant movie!!!

cutting losses

It's interesting, how many times in the last coupla days..I have come across people are ready to exit relationships I.e. Friendships to be precise. I am a strong believer of cutting losses and moving on...I have exited so many friendships I have lost count. Not to say I am proud of myself..but I find it liberating. Sometimes, all u want is peace and quiet...
My job totally frustrates me...I mean, the people can't even communicate..my head is banging..this post was meant to be about friends....but nw is abt cutting losses job wise....this move is what can be termed as ' a wrong career move'. Pity I didn't listen...

Sex and the City Part2 - if u havent seen it- be warned!!!

Now, I loved Sex and the City series..the movies not quite...
saw it on Sunday...despite all the raves..i wasn't so excited, cos i am not a shopaholic neither am i a fashion freak.....( as in I don't even window shop)
anyways amidst the crazy fashion. i learnt valuable lessons:
- one man's meat is another man's poison. Big and Carrie( reluctant carrie) agreed what would be best for them: as in no children, taking time outs; in normal society this will be deemed as wrong as Charlotte deemed. and at the end of the day it was Charlotte that needed the day off from her children.

the lessons for me were:
1) you can define the boundaries in your marriage, all you need is your partner and 105% confidence in each other
2) A partner that understands you and knows you, so when you go ahead and kiss someone he/she knows what exactly made up do it.....even though they are angry.

for me SATC 2 was just there, but i did learnt those lessons and will definitely not be tied by social rules and decorum.....but that is just me!!!!!.

Saw Transformers 2- 'revenge of the fallen' on Monday and that was absolutely brilliant....Optimus Prime ...is my guy any day. he would give Iron man a whooping....

anyways gotta go......

work beckons...i know @ 5pm abi......

A new start

Gosh it has been so long....but i am Back!!!!
i left my old job, i am still single amidst the cry of when are you getting married that has plague me in Nigeria.
Most importantly, I have started my own business..we have gotten 2 orders and it is going on well( will blog abt that later).
i must sound all cool and collected and like an achiever abi.....not so..
some many things happening to me at the same time...

today i am/ was so upset...spent the better part of the trying to book a ticket to Abuja for my mum on Aero and the bloody site times out... when it is time to pay....finally booked over the phone and then went to the ATM to withdraw the cash and then....'this card has been reported stolen'....i am thinking by whom....certainly not me the owner...
get to the bank and the customer service agent says' ohh..your new card is ready,
me: is that why i got that message on the machine???
CSA: we are phasing out the card...
me: shaking my head...y cant you just say that on the machine....instead of causing the individual to panic.

But today...i didnt argue..or raise my vioce( i am told I have anger mgt issues, which by the way is true). so i just wait patiently for my new card and leave the bank.
so get to the GT bank ATM...and wala...' sorry this ATM is out of order' unfortunately they are no longer on interswitch to now i have to look for the non GT ATM that will accept that crappy mastercard.
i mean ....who uses Mastercard, it is been phased out in the U.K...Visa is the KING of cards.

well, on a brigther note, this is the beginning of a neww month and i am going to be thankful in all things....so thank you Jesus for today!!!!!

and another thing ......my season finales have arrived...yipeeee!!!!!

have a good one