Y R U SiNglE

I was asked this question yesterday and so many things ran through my mind, but I said I dont knw. So I will attempt to answer this here b4 I answer him:
1) Guys I like don't like me
2) Have trust issues
3) I am really picky
4) I threaten men- I am too independent.
5) I am scared,what if I don't meet his expectation or vice versa.
6) Haven't found anyone that I like and hw likes me back,so I rather be alone than wiv someone I don't like.
7) I want to be chased and nt do the chasing.
8) Too many women around, so u with values are overlooked as been proud/full of ones self etc
9) The will of God
10 Waiting for the bone of my bone, my friend.
11)What if the person wants to change me??
12)The world is full of married men?
13)I don't really go out ,so I don't meet people.(the answer)

To be updated as I remember things...

A nation in TURMOIL

Really, 9ja just gets to me. The so called giant of Africa is in darkness because Nepa aka PHCN is on strike, now pple would say, what difference does that make there is never light? Abi. Well I think is a bit deeper than that, why are they on strike? The govt owes them some N30billion( or something like that)n they had wanted to embark on a strike earlier, but the govt paid them N5billion as a part payment,what is my point...the Govt OWES them money - nearly 2 years salaries,monetized benefits and allowances. How on earth do people work for 12months with no pay???that is unbelievable, no wonder equipments are vandalised,oficial exhtorit monies to give u power, to cut ur powerlines etc.. It is very disheartening, we shouldn't blame the officials, we are only suffering the effect of neglect of the pple. As they say Man must wak, these people have children they r sending to school, family members they are taken care of etc...how many of us can honestly say we would work honestly on those terms and conditions...
PHCN is just a victim of the Nigerian corrupt system....

God help us all.

SO I HAVE A CRUSH

So i have a crush on one of my single friends, and i have always though him a big strange, ever since i met him in school, everyone has raised an eyebrow at me( the what about him look).
Anyways, how did this develop...one day I go to his house to drop up some stuff and we got chatting and flirting and i just though woah..i actual like this guy( in that way).
And we are of similar backgrounds ( both last borns), anglican by birth( he is still one sha),from the same state, he is older like 40, i am 32( that worries me some times).
He is quiet and enjoys his own company, which i sincerly appreciate, I think he only wants one child and so do I. He also wants to return and live abroad as Nigeria frustrates him too...he likes to go on holidays and not shop.

Anyways so my colleague is his friend and thinks we would be great together. we actually do get along and all that.....and is on a mission to get us together

he has told me , his is a lost cause with regards to marriage and he will look for someone to have his baby, i just looked and smiled.

I am not sure that what i want from him, I think I just need to be involved with someone and i doesnt even have to involve sex....I honestly think i am lonely.....and this is not about needing someone to complete me ( at least I dont think so).

Anyways< i just think things will be less uncomplicated with him and it will be a live and let live relationship....

So i am awaiting to see how it unfolds, cos in all this I wanna be chased...lol

eagerly waiting,

FUN, FRIENDSHIP AND SOME GOOD LOVING

So i met this guy in my friend's office, who although not married, is in a committed relationship and has offered me the above. we have agreed to be just platonic friends.
I have said to him that time wasters need not apply. what I really wanted to say is: stay away from me dude, cos in 2 months time you will be bitching about your girlfriend and saying how you should be with me instead....I am so tired of hearing that crap..it is so stale.... how this marriage business would have been better with me and not her....
am i full of myself?? no ...the truth is I have heard it so many times, i don't believe it...cos how come i only hear if from my friends that have "significant others" and not single ones? i think men just get carried away when you guys are friends and begin to see something where there is nothing....

that begets the question: can men and women be platonic friends...i say yes, but someone always has feelings...but they rise above it for the sake of the friendship...

so yes i am up for fun, friendship and some gud loving....not just with you...

face who face you!!!!!!!!

5 year plan

So I have a 5yr plan...that is where I want to be in 5yrs..give or take by God's grace...In it, a man doesn't feature...should I be worried? Maybe; Am I worried?not as much as I shld...as I am single now..with no man on the horizon...I will cross that bridge when I get there. It is interesting in 5yrs - will be 37yr...scary as that sounds it is quite exciting to see how it unfolds....to be contd..sleepy

Carpe diem quam minime credula postero- sieze th day, worry nt about the future- horace

WANTED:

"Find a guy who calls you beautiful
instead of hot,
who calls you back
when you hang up on him,
who will lie under the stars
and listen to your heartbeat,
or will stay awake
just to watch you sleep...
wait for the boy
who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world
when you are in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on.
One who is constantly reminding you
of how much he cares
and how lucky he is
to have YOU...
The one who turns to his friends and says,
"that's her....

kNow YoUrSelF No bE CuRse

Always liked this saying....reminds me of Nkem Owoh.....
Seriously, it is the truth, know your self, know your capabilities, improve on those capabilities, know your failings, live with them.

A good friend once said never have regrets..i truely believe this but sometimes, just sometimes....it is hard.

Life is a battle and we all need a strategy to survive... and Survival is always at a price.

So on that note i advise everyone to have a roadmap...to try to accomplish what is on the road map...but always remember life doesnt always go according to plan...life isnt automatic...it can be very manual at times....lol......

But as long as can achieve 70% of the set target.....we can smile and pat ourselves at the back...despite what people say..cos you know you have done it and you know the cost.

FUTURE- old post

i have always liked this title for the simple reason that it is the truth..... i have for some time now felt like i have been drifting through life, unaccomplished...like i cant do much. So I have decided to draw up a five year plan. Everyone must have one. I have a rough sketch...and it is getting clearer now...
my plan will cover all aspects of my life - Career, Spiritual,Financial.

Career- could be broken down into:
what you see your self doing.
how to achieve that.
compromises to be made.
Exams or courses to take.

Spiritual -
where are you now
Oneness with your creator
deepen knowledge of the word

Financial
How much money will I need to be comfortable?
Do I need to be super rich or just comfortable with a good standard of living
How much of my money income will i save every month as a nest egg
What type of investments will I go into to get to the desired amount.


I mean it doesn't have to follow exactly....but I am sure you get the idea....

FOR THE LoVE oF MAyA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I am not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I am telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I am a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

By Maya Angelou

That Girl

To succeed in life one must learn from other experiences , so as not to make the same mistakes, while I can appreciate what you are saying..even if i didn't know your brother or his circumstances, in trying to not to make the same mistakes ,one loses a bit of one's self.....

I have decided to be the person that provides for her self and doesn't need a man to take care of her, but in doing that, i have lost meeting and connecting with awesome guys.

I am that girl that has learnt from others relationship experiences ....now she has trust issues.

I am that girl that has seen how a lack of finance can cause a breakdown in communication in relationships and now she is scared of taking in relationships.

I am the girl that has seen how marrying someone from a different background, leads to all sorts of communication breakdown and complications....so she will date only men who were brought up like her.

I have learnt how friends can be closer than brothers, and now...... she has had friends who trampled upon her and friends that believe she can take over the world.

I have also seen how ambition can make people destructive and petty and now she has limited her scope of reach.

I am that girl, how loves to meet people, loves love and just want to be happy...and now she is a loner and always sad....

I am that girl that once believed nothing was impossible....but now she has been humbled.

I am that girl that has always believed that is better to be alone or a single parent than endure the drama of marriage(a phobia for marriage).

I am that girl who has seen bitterness almost takeover a person......now she keeps my distance.

I am that girl that has seen how a sister can love her brother soooo much and but dislike his wife.....now cos she has brothers she loves so much she tend to take a back sit in their lives.

I am that girl that has heard how friends change when they get married and now....she let go first.

I am that girl that has been chased by so many married men and now......she thinks will this happen to her too.

I am that girl who is also friends with married man...and is very concerned for their wives.

I am that girl that has heard/ seen how gist spreads..so is quiet about her life( listens more and talks less).

I am that girl that likes to have the starring role in any drama filled activity ...so now she stays away from trouble.

I am that girl that has seen woman struggle with four children now wants only two.

I am also that girl that has seen her friend come back from the brink of death after child bearing and now only wants to give birth to one ( C- Section ) and adopt one.

I am that girl that has seen women go from skinny to fat( genes i possess)...... now she want only one child.

I am that girl that have seen people, who are now depressed or even a bit loony, but were absolutely fine in their youth..... now tries to see if she has that trait in her....

I am that girl ............that has a lot of love to give but is afraid to.......

I am the girl that see herself as a girl and not a woman even though she is 31

I am that girl that is gonna be a year old on Monday.....Hurrahhhh

I am that girl that knows her future is bright....

I am that girl that believes in Jesus Christ!!!!!!!

I am that girl ...that is it

NEW BUSINESS

Started a new business last month as a personal shopper, i have gotten some orders and it seems to be going okay...customers are just trickly in...but rome wasnt built in a day.
i think i am going to try my hands at writing short stories,,,it cant be that hard, can it?? easy than taking up sewing isnt it
so i am dusting my "proverbial Pen" and taking this up...i shall try to put my thots on pen and paper....

A lack of interest

I have no interest in anything....I mean the world cup is on and I didn't even want to watch the openning ceremony. I don't want to go out at weekends, saturdays and sundays are used to relax...maybe that is y I have put on some weight cos of my inactivity ..even my daddy has noticed...anywys I hope I get over this sooner than later. Now back to the Blind Side...brillant movie!!!

cutting losses

It's interesting, how many times in the last coupla days..I have come across people are ready to exit relationships I.e. Friendships to be precise. I am a strong believer of cutting losses and moving on...I have exited so many friendships I have lost count. Not to say I am proud of myself..but I find it liberating. Sometimes, all u want is peace and quiet...
My job totally frustrates me...I mean, the people can't even communicate..my head is banging..this post was meant to be about friends....but nw is abt cutting losses job wise....this move is what can be termed as ' a wrong career move'. Pity I didn't listen...

Sex and the City Part2 - if u havent seen it- be warned!!!

Now, I loved Sex and the City series..the movies not quite...
saw it on Sunday...despite all the raves..i wasn't so excited, cos i am not a shopaholic neither am i a fashion freak.....( as in I don't even window shop)
anyways amidst the crazy fashion. i learnt valuable lessons:
- one man's meat is another man's poison. Big and Carrie( reluctant carrie) agreed what would be best for them: as in no children, taking time outs; in normal society this will be deemed as wrong as Charlotte deemed. and at the end of the day it was Charlotte that needed the day off from her children.

the lessons for me were:
1) you can define the boundaries in your marriage, all you need is your partner and 105% confidence in each other
2) A partner that understands you and knows you, so when you go ahead and kiss someone he/she knows what exactly made up do it.....even though they are angry.

for me SATC 2 was just there, but i did learnt those lessons and will definitely not be tied by social rules and decorum.....but that is just me!!!!!.

Saw Transformers 2- 'revenge of the fallen' on Monday and that was absolutely brilliant....Optimus Prime ...is my guy any day. he would give Iron man a whooping....

anyways gotta go......

work beckons...i know @ 5pm abi......

A new start

Gosh it has been so long....but i am Back!!!!
i left my old job, i am still single amidst the cry of when are you getting married that has plague me in Nigeria.
Most importantly, I have started my own business..we have gotten 2 orders and it is going on well( will blog abt that later).
i must sound all cool and collected and like an achiever abi.....not so..
some many things happening to me at the same time...

today i am/ was so upset...spent the better part of the trying to book a ticket to Abuja for my mum on Aero and the bloody site times out... when it is time to pay....finally booked over the phone and then went to the ATM to withdraw the cash and then....'this card has been reported stolen'....i am thinking by whom....certainly not me the owner...
get to the bank and the customer service agent says' ohh..your new card is ready,
me: is that why i got that message on the machine???
CSA: we are phasing out the card...
me: shaking my head...y cant you just say that on the machine....instead of causing the individual to panic.

But today...i didnt argue..or raise my vioce( i am told I have anger mgt issues, which by the way is true). so i just wait patiently for my new card and leave the bank.
so get to the GT bank ATM...and wala...' sorry this ATM is out of order' unfortunately they are no longer on interswitch to now i have to look for the non GT ATM that will accept that crappy mastercard.
i mean ....who uses Mastercard, it is been phased out in the U.K...Visa is the KING of cards.

well, on a brigther note, this is the beginning of a neww month and i am going to be thankful in all things....so thank you Jesus for today!!!!!

and another thing ......my season finales have arrived...yipeeee!!!!!

have a good one